When someone gives you multiple excuses as to why they can't hangout, without offering other options, they do not what to see you. It really is as simple as that. I know it's harsh, and I know some people have a hard time understanding, but taking a hint will save you from tons of embarrassment and/or disappointment.
I can't tell you how many times I've had to come up with different excuses as to why I can't see someone. If I'm always "out of town" or "have a lot of work to get done" or it's always "one of my friends birthdays" I just don't want to see you. I get that I should be upfront, and tell someone the truth, but that's a lot harder than just making up a lie. And I also have an irrational fear of hurting someone's feelings/being the victim of a psychotic break.
Once you get put on my "do not hang out with" list it is nearly impossible to get off. Unless you happen to catch me at a time I'm feeling vulnerable and am needing extra attention, you're probably never going to change my mind. With each denial I get more and more annoyed by you and am less and less likely to accept your invitation.
Also, a good way to make sure of the fact that I will never hang out with you is to be very vague and noncommittal with your invitations. If you just ask if i want to "hang out," I am far less likely to say yes. If you come to me with a set plan, even as simple as a restaurant you want to try or a movie you want to see, and at a specific date, I am much more likely to accept. We're getting too old for just "hanging out." If I wanted to just "hang out" I would do it with my friends, people I actually know I enjoy spending time with.
So, I'm sorry that I can't be honest when you ask me if I want to get together, but at least I don't expect it in return. I know when I'm getting jerked around and I'm not one to keep trying. I'm very good at making very little effort.
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